If you find yourself spending every January 1st making the same old resolutions over and over again you're not alone. In fact it's a trap that the majority of us fall into repeatedly - and not just when a new year beckons, but every time we try to make a positive change in our lives. Perhaps you'd like a career change, maybe you want to move on from a failed relationship or finally want to give up smoking? But somehow, something always stands in your way and you find yourself failing again - or maybe not even starting.
But imagine if you were in control? And that you could visualise and achieve the life you wanted to live, without any limits. Doesn't that open up an entire world of possibilities? And wouldn't that make you one hundred times happier? And imagine if that lifestyle was ongoing - and that each goal you set yourself was accompanied by a plan of action and smaller steps to help you to be successful. Wow! Just wow!
Which is the sort of feeling you get after you leave a life coaching session with Chloe Tasch from Be Your Best You. I was lucky enough to be included in a recent workshop Chloe ran, which tackled the positive changes (as opposed to those doomed New Year Resolutions) the participants wanted to make. And it definitely left its participants on a high - full of inspiration - and perhaps more importantly - with the tools to achieve their goals.
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The workshop I attended, was held in Chloe's home, had 6 participants, and lasted from 9.30 to 3pm. It was informal, and we had a several breaks, including a lovely lunch prepared by Chloe. Sometimes we worked as a group, other times in pairs - and some of our work was carried out alone. I should add that what is discussed at a session is confidential, and the participants are made aware of that, and that problems or issues can be shared or not, as you prefer. Oh, and be prepared to make some new friends too!
Since life coaching is a forward looking process, the first stage was to identify where exactly we wanted to be in life - the end goal we had in mind. We used a simple chart to identify our satisfaction with a variety of areas of life - everything from work, health, money and relationships. For me, this was where the shock really kicked in - areas that I hadn't even considered would be of interest to the day were quite clearly the ones that I needed to work on. I had unwittingly, come along to the workshop with some preconceived ideas about what I wanted to get from it - and already I was learning other aspects of my life were sticking points.
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After discussing our goals, we discussed our 'limiting beliefs' - the ways we have of thinking that hold us back in life and prevent us from succeeding - perhaps the very reason we are always re-starting a diet or giving up on new interests. Often we indulge in negative chatter, phrasing things in a manner that focusses on what we can't do. Choosing your response to ideas and plans you have puts you in control - and positive affirmations and simply re-framing the way that you 'talk to yourself' about your abilities gives you a far better chance of success.
Setting our goals was also an important part of the day - and Chloe taught us how to set specific, realistic and achievable ones, if necessary breaking them down. Once these goals were identified we worked on actions that would help us achieve them. The importance of re-visiting our goals - and perhaps even adjusting them - as we achieved our success was also stressed. Celebrating our success was also recommended.
The final part of the day focussed on making a vision board - a collection of 'heart-thumping' images and words (cut from magazines or brought to the session with us) that reached and inspired us and that would help keep our goals in mind. The vision board serves as a permanent reminder of the day, the goals you have set yourself and the actions you will take to achieve your goals. This picture can be pinned up on your wall or maybe even photographed and stored as your wallpaper on your laptop or smartphone, because you will need to see it often and use it to maintain the motivation and inspiration experienced at the coaching session.
It would be an understatement to say the workshop with Chloe was eye-opening. I've always considered myself quite 'in tune' with my inner self - and think I'm quite determined when I set myself a goal. And yet, I learnt so much about making goals more achievable - and how I still set limits with negative words and thoughts. It doesn't take a genius to see that a good life coach can help you draw a map that takes you where you want to be in life.
An initial chat/session with Chloe is free of charge and without obligation. She offers one to one coaching and tailored group sessions.
If you've come to a bit of a sudden halt after having children, or have realised that you've spent so much time ensuring they are nurtured that your own goals have been lost along the way, it might be time to consider a life coaching session. Alternatively, maybe a significant birthday has thrown you into turmoil or the thought of returning to work after maternity leave has made you realise you are looking for something different? Whatever your reasons, if you want to be a happier, healthier version of you I really recommend Chloe!
What do you think? Would you try life coaching - and do you feel it's time to re-evaluate your life? Is it a natural phase parents go through after the 'baby fog' has cleared? Have you made the same resolutions time and time again - or do you know where you want to be in a year or five years time? Let me know in the comment box below.
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